Four Key Questions to Help You Set Boundaries


When we don’t set boundaries, often the person we most disappoint is ourselves.

I used to disappoint myself a lot.

Now, I don’t do any meetings or coaching calls before 10:00 am. As I’ve said to more than one person “I’m not ready for prime time before then.”

So, what happens before 10:00 am?

  • I meditate for 20 minutes.

  • I make my Keto Coffee, and while drinking it, I journal for 20-30 minutes.

  • I write for an hour

  • I have an accountability call with a partner that has been happening for two years and finally,

  • I have a creation call with a partner that has been happening for fourteen years. 

I used to feel guilty about taking “all of that time” for me. But now I know when I don’t, I feel out of sorts and I’m less effective at my job.

How about you: What're the biggest things that stop you from setting and holding boundaries?

Here are some key questions to ask yourself:

  • Who do you most need to set boundaries with? (make a list if needed)

  • Where do you need to set boundaries with yourself?

  • If you say yes to that, what will you say no to and vice versa?

  • What three boundaries could you set to ensure your needs are met?

Let me know how I can support you!

Jen Coken