Little Known Ways to Let Go

I had a great time with some old friends at an early July 4th bbq on Sunday. It had been a year since we have spent any quality time together. Why?

A year ago we got into an argument about something that happened. We all were upset and said and did things we shouldn't have done.

These friends and I have attempted a few times to connect to try to sort things out but we hadn't quite "gotten there" yet.

Then they invited me to their new home.

The thought of seeing them again gave me a stomach ache. I dreaded the tension I knew would be there when we spent time together.

But I missed their friendship. So, I said yes. Then I did these two little, but not insignificant things.

  1. I let go of taking what happened personally.
  2. I let go of my righteous indignation.

Sh** happens. It's all in the past. The more I hold on to my hurt or anger, the more I close my heart. The more my heart is closed, the less love I have to give to myself and the world.

Being righteously indignant had cost me missing out on spending Christmas with them, celebrating birthdays, hearing about their lives, and sharing about my own.

Truth be told? Who knows what actually went down the year before. No one was recording the conversation for pete's sake.

I was so glad I went.

As I sat out in the sun drinking some champagne to toast my friend's new work endeavor, his Mom looked at me and said "it's so good to see you, we haven't seen you in so long."

"It's really good to see you too." I looked at my friends and smiled at them. I was so grateful to be with them.

I ask you this just in time for "Independence Day":

Where are you taking things personally? Where are you being righteously indignant? Most importantly, what is it costing you?

Now, let it all go. Declare your independence from being held hostage by your emotions.

And, if you need some help, I always offer a free 30 minute coaching call. Just schedule it by going to

Jen Coken